Monday, June 7, 2010

This is a call to arms to live and love and sleep together. We could flood the streets with love or light or heat, whatever.



Tukuli's Wedding

I recently attended a wedding reception for a colleague of mine. Unfortunately I was unable to attend the ceremony because it was held in Cuttuck (about a 45 min drive away) and rains had spoiled our plans to attend. The reception was a couple days later and held at the OAB. I really like weddings here. Basically there are no seating charts or even enough seats for all the guests. It is buffet style eating with two buffets of course: veg and non-veg. This wedding even had a Gup Chup booth and a Chaat booth. Mmmmm good eats. Most guests come, present gifts, eat and go. A reception is more like a revolving door of friends and well wishers. I stayed under two hours and got a chance to mingle with friends from work and meet many people who were interested in the foreigner at this affair.


I took this event as the perfect opportunity to buy myself a sari. Auntie, which is what I call my land lady, helped me get dressed.


Veg food on a banana leaf plate. So good!


Presenting gifts to the bride and groom.


A pan of the wedding.

OAB Elections

June 6th was the day that all members of the Orissa Association for the Blind came out to vote for the NGO's top positions. I gladly went into the office on that Sunday to observe how they did it. I even took over some of the responsibilities to give my workmates a break. For a while I crossed off names (which I pronounced horribly!) and helped people into the voting area. It was a real treat to see the proud faces of everyone contributing to this organisation that fights for them. The amazing energy in the building that day was something only to be experienced.

The actual voting was interesting to learn about. All of the voting members were given a specified number of cards which had their identity number on it. After being marked with ink on their hand (to show they had voted) the members went being the curtain where there were various boxes for all the elected positions like general secretary, president and treasurer. The boxes were marked in Braille as well as large print English and Oryia with the names of the candidates. The voting member then would drop their card in the prefered box.


Members getting identity cards and numbers.


Crossing people off the list.


Confirming identity outside of the voting curtains.

Later that evening I received I phone call from my friend Prangya to inform me that the general secretary position (that of my boss) had went to his opponent. The office is closed until June 16th and I am a bit nervous to try and establish a relationship with the new secretary...as he will probably be extremely busy settling into his new role. I guess I will just have to wait and see.

Song from title: The Youth by MGMT

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

There's things I want. There's things I think I want. There's things I've had. There's things I wanna have.



6 Month Reflection

May 10th marked my six month anniversary of being here in India. Passing this point has been great for my mental health. I feel as though I'm on the home stretch. In my short time in this incredible country I have learned so much about myself and about life in a developing country. Getting the chance to live “inside” another culture has been frustrating, rewarding, confusing and fun! I have learned a lot about different religions, politics, family relations, music, dancing, and art. AND the food is amazing!

There is not a day that goes by that I am not truly reminded of why I'm here and why I chose to be a volunteer. Everyday I see hungry people, people with leprosy, uneducated people, unclean streets, dirty drinking water, and shoeless children roaming the city picking up trash. Persons with disabilities are treated as second class citizens. Girls and women are passed over for opportunities that are given to boys and men simply because of their gender. These issues and more are faced by the majority of people in the world. Most people do not live like we live in the west. Most live like people in India. Despite all this I feel hopeful that these things will change. That's why I'm here after all. I'm hoping that my small contribution to this one NGO will make life better for some and inspire others to continue with this movement of change.

In Canada I sometimes felt alone with my concerns about those who are struggling and suffering in the developing world. I was kept awake at night thinking about hunger, child labour, female infanticide, people dying of diseases for which we have a cure... and the list goes on. (All this on top of my usual concerns for animal rights. :P) I got tired of all this thinking, philosophizing and worrying and decided that I would be active about it. Hence my interest in volunteering.

Thinking about life at home I understand why it is so easy to ignore this suffering. We don't see it... or if we do happen to catch a glimpse of it on tv we think to ourselves 'isn't that too bad' and then carry on without responsibility and without conviction. If one person suffers then we all suffer. In this mindset I am not a woman, a Canadian, a software developer, a marathon runner or a vegan. I am a citizen of the world. I am trying to find that human connection that goes beyond our the superficial way in which we often define ourselves. It was not my choice to be born in Canada. However, through my random luck I have the privilege and opportunity to be able to improve life for a small few and in doing so I hope to inspire others to do the same.

All that being said. I am not without gain from this experience. No one is that altruistic. (Nietzsche would say that ALL of my actions and thoughts are self-serving). Getting involved with VSO has allowed me to meet some pretty spectacular people. Volunteers that are willing change their lives in the hopes that it brings about something positive for someone else. So, I no longer feel alone in the way that I think. I have met some wonderful employees at the OAB who are truly inspiring and really think outside of the box. I have made connections with people that I hope are life long and I already dread having to say goodbye when the time comes. For the first time in my life when I come home from work at the end of the day I feel good about what I am doing. I get to serve and advise people that are truly deserving and I feel really appreciated by them.

This experience has also allowed me to examine the relationships with my friends and family back home. It's very humbling to have unwavering support from those I love. I am constantly getting words of encouragement and I want to say that every letter, card, drawing, email, chat message and skype call are appreciated. Without this I would not be as successful as I have been. Thank you to all that read this.

Here's to another fabulous six months!

Song from title: Just Looking by Stereophonics

Monday, May 10, 2010

Somethin's shakin' early in the mornin'. People movin', tryin' to be free. If you listen you can hear them. Don't they sound like you and me?



Getting back to work

Heading back to the office after vacation is always difficult. Knowing that my time here is finite and going by faster than I had imagined made me feel anxious to get back to work and see my co-workers. I found that it was best to throw myself back into my normal routine right away which meant going back to the gym after two weeks off. I'm happy to report I survived parting with Shea (again!) and everything feels back to normal.

Work has picked up since I got back. I was able to set up a file share for the office on an old computer that was not in use. I also plan to use this computer as my server for the internal web application that I am writing. I hope to be done writing code within a month. Testing to follow that. I hope to start training staff on how to use the software and have them help out with the testing. So far I feel that I have been able to be very productive with my work, possibly because until this point I have not had to rely on others to get things done. I'm really hoping that the OAB will be able to dedicate time to learning how to use this software along with other computing basics. The training phase of the work will make or break my placement... if the software is never used then my placement objectives will not have been met. However, I have passed on a wealth of information outside of my goals on paper that I feel good about.

Tidbit of everyday life: laundry

Ok, some of you may or may not know that most people in India do laundry by hand... and I am one of them. So, for the last six months I have learned to soak, scrub, rinse, hang and repeat every couple of days. Never again will I complain about having to run to the basement to “throw a load in”. I now have to spend hours of my week getting my clothes, towels and sheets clean. Here's how I do it:


Supplies: bucket, soap and a scrub brush. (I happen to use 3-4 buckets and separate my colours.)


Soak clothes overnight and remove water.


Scrub clothes vigorously paying special attention to armpits, pant cuffs, etc. and rinse thoroughly.


Proceed with clothes to the roof for drying.


Roof!


Scan neighbouring balcony for the creepy guy that watches me hang my clothes. For once he is not there!


To save on clothes pins be sure to overlap adjacent items.


Wait 2-3 hours for the sun to do it's magic and then collect. Voila!

Next time you do your laundry give your washing machine a little hug for me. Let it know it is appreciated.

Song from title: Somethin's Shakin' by David Wilcox

Friday, April 30, 2010

Your smile is fine and it's just like mine and it won't go away.

Ok, so it's been about a month since my last post... I know blogger's faux pas number one. However, in my defense, I embarked on an intense India tour during the hottest season. To make up for my lack of posts this past month here is blogger faux pas number two: an extremely long post about the awesome adventure I had with Mr. Michael Shea! As a special treat Shea agreed to help out and guest write about our West to East journey across this incredible country. Enjoy!

Delhi

Shea writes:
My first stop in India was the city of Delhi, and it was there that I first noticed many features of India that I became used to (or at least not terrified by) over the next two weeks.

First of all – India is full of people! So many people, everywhere, all the time! All of them want to look at you, although the staring isn’t as bad for men as it is for women. If I stared back at a man looking at me, he would usually drop his gaze before too long. Lots of them also want to talk to you. I must have said No (or the Hindi equivalent, “Nah / Nahi”) more times during my stay in India than I ever have before in my life. Adults are very talkative – sometimes they’re trying to sell you something, or convince you to go visit a store that they get a commission from, and sometimes they just want to know where you’re from, or to take a picture of themselves with you. Children yell hello at you, and are entertained if you yell it back.

Secondly, India is full of smells both good and bad (maybe a bit more bad than good, though) and garbage. There is garbage everywhere! At first I tried to find receptacles to put my trash in, but after the first day or so, I generally settled for finding pre-existing piles of garbage. Cows and dogs eating garbage is a common sight.

Delhi’s traffic is, in a word, chaotic. This is the case everywhere, but I think it was worse in Delhi than anywhere else. Rickshaw drivers in Delhi were extremely lazy – they would often just refuse to go where you wanted to, without even discussing the price.

Highlights of my visit to Delhi:
· Parawthe Wala. The paranthas at this place were the tastiest food I had in India and, therefore, the tastiest food I have ever had. As far as I can tell, a parantha is some sort of fried dough with “stuff” cooked into it... like, bananas or tomatoes or onions or whatever. And they give you some other stuff to dip the parantha into. Mmmm.

Paranthas: 1 cashew and 1 tomato.

· The ear cleaning guys in Cannaught Place. These guys wander around the park and strike up conversations with foreigners. They show you their little book containing testimonials from all of the other folks who have undergone ear-cleaning. Then they offer to just take a look in your ear. Do not allow them to do this, unless you are willing to actually have the full cleaning - it is very hard to say no to a person who has a sharp metal stick stuck in your ear. Anyway – the guy pulled all sorts of gross muck out of my ear, and then wiped it on his hand and showed it to me, to demonstrate just how gross my ears really were. While this was going on, a shoe cleaner guy, presumably smelling blood in the air, came by and cleaned my shoes for me. Since I still had the sharp stick in my ear, I was also unable to protest this vigorously enough, and ended up paying for a completely useless shoe cleaning as well. All told I think the experience cost me about 5 bucks.
· Seeing my lovely fiancĂ©e, AnnMarie, for the first time in over 5 months!


Touring Old Delhi via cycle richshaw.

Jaipur aka The Pink City

AM writes:
We woke up early to board our AC bus to Jaipur and, after our driver circled a few times, we found the bus stand. We also showed up empty-handed after the internet said that we didn't need to print our tickets... this created a slight problem but luckily I asked the staff at the bus stop to check the manifest for our names, and they let us board. It took about 6 hours to reach Jaipur but we were kept company by a friend, Vijay, that we made on the bus. He also helped negotiate a rickshaw to our hotel, Umaid Bhawan which was really lovely. We began and ended our days in Jaipur in the great pool at our hotel which neglected to post a "no diving sign" that we took full advantage of. The breakfast buffet was served on the roof and was really tasty. Shea and I both loved our stay at the Umaid and so I feel the need to advise future travelers to stay there too! (book with Expedia and your breakfast and internet are included!)


View from our balcony.


Elephant wall paintings in our room.

The heat in Jaipur was intense so we hired a driver in an AC car to tour the city. He took us to various temples and mahals. My favourites being Hawa Mahal and City Palace. The architecture of the city is amazing and colourful! At the end of our tour our driver took us to his uncle's silver jewelry shop where we purchased some lovely bracelets for our sisters. I want to add that I considered cutting Jaipur out of our tour to save some time but I am glad we did not. I found the city to really have a unique look and feel.


Albert Hall Museum.

Getting out of Jaipur was an experience. We had booked a bus to Agra only to get to the bus stand at 8am and find out it was cancelled due to some sort of road closure. This was stressful, as we were booked on a train out of Agra that night. We headed for the train station, where we found that none of the trains would fit our schedule... meaning they wouldn't leave us enough time to see Taj. So, feeling defeated and a little distraught we started walking away from the train station to find an ATM because we were light on cash. After walking for about ten minutes we came upon a man at a table with an umbrella and signs with pictures of buses. I asked him if he could get us to Agra and he informed us that the bus was leaving in 1/2 an hour. We purchased our tickets and grabbed a rickshaw to the bus in plenty of time. This bus was very local and had no AC. So we embarked on our slow moving journey through the back roads to Agra in the sweltering heat for seven and a half hours. We were basically trapped in a metal box in the middle of the desert in 45+ weather. I started to feel very panicked about the heat half way through the journey but there was nothing I could do. Luckily we made it to Agra without me breaking down. Shea was a trooper!

Agra

Shea writes:
I don’t know much about Agra. Frankly, we didn’t see very much of the city. We heard that there isn’t much to do there other than visit the Taj Mahal. So, we got in, we saw the Taj, we ate at the local Dasaprakash, and we got out.
We arrived in the city around 4:00pm, I think, and got to the Taj around 5:00, arriving at the West gate. We checked our bags at a nearby bag-checking place (they don’t allow you to bring large bags into the grounds of the Taj Mahal). The lineup at the West gate was enormous. We paid some guy 150 rupees to bring us to a different gate, where we skipped the line. I don’t think we needed to do this, though... There didn’t seem to be a lineup at the East gate, so we probably could have just walked over there and gotten in quickly, if we had known.

The Taj Mahal itself was amazing, and is the most beautiful building I’ve ever seen. It doesn’t seem real when you see it – the lines are so perfect, the curves are so smooth, it looks like it’s painted on the sky. We took the obligatory picture of me “dangling” the Taj from my grip. There are signs up saying that you shouldn’t take pictures inside the Taj itself. We chose to respect Indian culture, but most of the Indians there were snapping photos left and right anyway. The inside is okay, but nothing to write home about. Sadly, not even the grounds of the Taj Mahal were completely free of garbage, but they were at least cleaner than anywhere else I saw in India that wasn’t inside of a hotel.


Mighty Shea is so strong!

Leaving Agra, I got to experience my first overnight train ride in India. We booked two berths in “3AC” (third class, air-conditioned). This is the way to travel! They really blast the AC in there. Each car manages to actually fairly comfortably seat (or sleep) 8 people – 3 bunks on two walls, 2 bunks on a third wall. The upper bunks fold up, allowing the lowest bunk to be used as a seat during waking hours. I slept like a baby as the motion of the train rocked me to sleep. Somehow, it reminded me of camping.


Shea getting comfy in his berth on the train to Varanasi.


Family that we befriended on the train. The kids loved watching Avatar: The Last Airbender on our laptop... actually the adults did too.

Varanasi

Shea writes:
If not for the poor quality of the air here, I would really have liked this city. The streets are chaotic, especially in the old city by the ghats, but they’re more pedestrian-friendly. They don’t allow motorized vehicles into the old city.


Veggie "burger" from "Burger King".

Varanasi sits on the west bank of the Ganges. They have two “burning ghats” in the city (fyi: a ghat is something like a dock – it is a broad set of steps leading down to the river). The burning ghats are where they burn the bodies of the deceased. We heard all about the ghats repeatedly, from two different sources – one at each ghat. Naturally, each of these sources first informed us that they didn’t want any money and just liked talking to people, and then asked for something when the story was done (the first asked us to visit the shop he worked at, and the second asked us for a “donation” to his hospice).

The residents of Varanasi bathe in the Ganges, but I certainly would not want to do this. In addition to the standard pollution, this river is also full of whatever bits of people don’t get completely burned up in the funeral pyres.

Every night in Varanasi, there is a celebration at the ghats. I’m not sure why they have this celebration, but hey, it seemed like a good time the one night we checked it out. We also took a boat tour after dark, to see the ghats from the river. That was fun. Oh, and we managed to get up early enough to see the sun rise one morning. Unfortunately, the smog interfered with the view, and we weren’t really able to see the sun until after it had risen.


Sunrise through the smog.


Boat tour. (notice cremation happening in the background)


View of the nightly puja at the ghats from our boat.

There is far too much burning going on in Varanasi. Burning ghats. Burning piles of garbage in alleyways. Furthermore, people there seem to do some sort of burning paper ritual when they open their stores. They need to stop burning so much stuff. The air there was so thick with smoke all the time that you can see it in the air if you take a picture with the flash on at night.

Kolkata

AM writes:
Arriving in Kolkata I felt a little nervous having heard about the theft prevalence at Howrah station but I soon learned that the risk is low if you just keep an eye on your stuff. We wanted to buy our tickets out of Kolkata before leaving the station so, after being misguided by many people for about half an hour, we finally found the right line to wait in. It was a long process of line jumping and paper work, but we managed to get our tickets. We grabbed a cab (that was stuck in traffic for a solid hour) to the awesome Oberoi Grand, a swanky 5-star hotel... we felt we needed a treat. This hotel was amazing... so much so we had trouble motivating ourselves to venture outside. The pool was fantastic and every time we swam we were served with water, towels and sunscreen! The food was also amazing. They even had soy milk for the cereal! I had breakfast dosas and cornflakes topped with almonds, cashews, pistachios and walnuts! Shea had waffles, croissants and donuts!


Fancy Room part 1.


Fancy Room part 2.


Pool lounging at the Oberoi.

We did manage to venture out and see the usual tourist spots like the Victoria Monument, Eden Gardens and Mother Teresa's house. We even braved the subway system to go out to dinner. We tried traditional Bengali food and we loved it! Bring on the sweet rice! We also spent time shopping in New Market which was very close to our hotel and we met up with Joyce (a VSO vol based in Kolkata) at the Blue and Beyond Roof Top Restaurant where we dined with a great view of the city.


Victoria Monument.


View of Kolkata from the Blue and Beyond Rooftop Restaurant.


Children we met in a park while walking home from Mother Teresa's house.

For our last dinner in Kolkata we ate at the fancy Thai restaurant in the Oberoi and it was fantastic! The only restaurants in Orissa are Indian and Indian-Chinese, so it was nice to finally get some different flavours. This restaurant had a Basil Tofu dish and I was all over it! Shea had green veg curry which was also a delight.

To get back to Howrah station, we had the Oberoi staff flag a taxi, and we agreed to pay the driver 100 rupees. We were expecting the ride to take about an hour due to heavy traffic, but our driver was totally insane. He was weaving in and out of traffic, driving on the sidewalk, and at one point got out of the car and bargained with bus drivers to let him cut into lanes. All the while he was blaring what Shea and I assumed was Hindi-Christian rock (this was because of the Jesus pooja he had going on his dashboard... Jesus on the cross all lit up in pink and purple!). We made it to the train station in nine minutes... which meant our driver tried to ask us for more money... we stuck to the agreed upon price though. Nice try!

Puri/Bhubaneswar

Shea writes:
The last stops on our trek were Puri, followed by Bhubaneswar. I liked both of these cities.

Puri is a sleepy little beach town on the Bay of Bengal. We stayed at the Hans Coco Hotel. This hotel had a sweet pool, but terrible customer service. We had to ask them repeatedly for a “Do Not Disturb” sign for our room, and they were jerks about our second breakfast. We arrived early the first day, and they told us to go ahead and have breakfast. Then the second day (on which we checked out), they told us to once again go and have breakfast, but then tried to charge us for it. They didn’t really seem to understand that, even though they were probably legally correct, they were being dicks and should really just let it go. Eventually I told them that I would pay for the meal and never stay at their hotel again, and then they agreed to remove the charge. Oh, they also charged us 300 rupees when Am’s friend Lucy came to swim in the pool. Boo - cheap behaviour from a hotel that should have been on the classy side.

Other than that, our stay in Puri was very nice. We swam in the pool. We meandered through the town during the day. This was probably the wrong time to do meander, though – the town was mostly closed down during the day, but seemed fairly active in the evening. We played in the surf on the beach – the waves were fierce, though, so we didn’t go out very far. And we met up with Lucy for dinner at Lemon Grass, which was a nice outdoor restaurant.

I also liked Bhubaneswar. We stayed at the Trident hotel there, which was good, but not nearly on the same level as the Oberoi Grand in Kolkata. We visited the OAB, and I got to meet Kalu the dog, and also the random puppy that AnnMarie befriended, and AnnMarie’s office-mate Pragyna.


Dinner with my Indian family. Aka my landlords.

We went out dancing at the HHI club on our one night in Bhubaneswar. That was a blast. I think there were maybe 8 of us, but we still outnumbered all the other clients in the bar. The DJ started out playing mostly retro, but switched to more “continental” music when asked to do so. The French guys that Am and her friends know bought all the drinks (basically, we could just go to the bar and order whatever we wanted, and then they picked up the tab at the end of the night). So if any of your French guys are reading this – thanks!


Shea in the front of the rickshaw where men belong!

Song from title: Rosey and Grey by Lowest of the Low

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

She sits down on the sidewalk and bites her bottom lip and spends the afternoon willing traffic lights to change.

On the weekend I took a trip to the village of Bahanaga with my friend and co-worker Prangya. I had a great time and I felt that I had to keep pinching myself to feel like it was really happening.

Train

The train ride from Bhubaneswar was about four hours and we had general tickets. This meant seating with no A/C. It was warm but bearable. At least we had seats. On the way home it was standing room only for a couple hours.

Bahanaga and Barikpur

We arrived at Prangya's home around 9:30pm in the middle of a scheduled power cut. Her mother was busy making us dinner and I was introduced to her brother, Jitu; the neighbour, Damayaanti; and Damayaanti's son, Babulu. In the village neighbors are like family and the two families cook and eat together everyday. All of the cooking is done on an open fire outside. They made me a mixed vegetable dish and some naan that night. It was really amazing. We spent some time visiting and got to bed around midnight. The family insisted I sleep in my own room (the house only has 3 rooms) so I thought it was very generous.

The next morning I woke up early and had a chance to look around the property. I was taken to the pond nearby where people swim and bathe. Luckily, Prangya's family had a make shift shower stall where I had privacy for my bucket shower... I just couldn't fully stand up in it.


Damayaanti while cooking breakfast.


Making friends with the calf.


Calf's mom.

Brushing my teeth was even an experience. Her brother Deepak (whom I have met a few times now) insisted that I try an all natural tooth brush that is basically a stick from a tree they called “dantakathi” in Oryia. So, I was instructed to chew one end of the stick until it was soft like a brush and used it to brush my teeth. The taste was bitter but apparently it is very good for your teeth.


Toothbrush prep.


Trying it out.

Before heading out on our long day we visited a temple that was near by and made some offerings.


Posing as instructed.


Priest.

We started our journey around 9am. We had rented a car for the occasion. I was taken to meet many friends and relatives in Bahanaga and Barikpur (a close by village where Prangya grew up). The villages are mainly dirt roads with mud huts that have straw roofs. Everyone I met was really interested in me and wished to shake my hand. I was told that I was the first foreigner to visit the village. I even had children following me around. The kids got a kick out of my camera and laughed when I would make faces at them. I found the curiosity of people in the village to be more genuine and friendly when compared to the menacing stares I get in the city. It was a welcome change of pace.


Babulu and Deepak.


Typical village dwelling.


Kids following me around.


Shy girls.

Panchalingeswar Temple

The first site of the day was Panchalingeswar Temple which is located in Nilagiri, Parbat at the top of a gorgeous hill. We hiked up the hill and took rest in the shade and bought snacks on the way. When we reached our destination there were people lined up and sticking their hands in to some water. Nearby there were priests making offerings to the god Shiva. Prangya and her family insisted that I line up to have a go at the water fall. This water fall has been flowing constantly for hundreds of years and when you reach in you are to find the five lingeswar (parts of the god Shiva). I reached in and felt around and found five distinct rocks. This meant good luck for me meaning that I get what I desire. (I suppose it is sort of like a wishing well.)


Feeling for the rocks.


Priests making offerings to Shiva.


View from the hill.

Jagannath Temple
Our next destination was the Jagannath Temple in Nilagiri. I entered the temple and followed suit of my company by hugging a large wooden post. This represents the guard of Lord Jagannath. Jagganath is the top god in Orissa and I got in trouble for not sitting properly to show respect. I had to switch to lotus position from having my legs stretched out in front of me. I was quickly forgiven of my ignorance. This temple is where we had lunch. We partnered up and shared plates because the amount of food was too much for one person. We sat on the ground and ate with our hands. I was laughed at for dropping rice all over myself. I was a good sport though.


Prangya and her mother.


Eating with my hands.

Chandipur Beach

Our last stop was a beach on the Bay of Bengal at Chandipur. The beach was vast and you could walk out into the water for a couple of kilometers. We walked pretty far and the deepest water was up to your ankle. It was beautiful.


In the water facing the shore.


Deepak, Prangya and Jitu.


Tiny crab guy covering his hole with sand.

When we got to shore we had snacks of Muri and Kurkure. We had to fend off goats for our snack. The goats hang out on the beach and pester people for food. They were pretty cute so we took turns feeding them.


Goat feeding.

On the way back from Chandipur we stopped for Dosas... the perfect end to a perfect day.

Song from title: Exiles Among You by The Weakerthans